This entire week has been nothing but celebrations and happiness! The day after our anniversary was a national holiday here in Guatemala (May 1st—it’s Labor Day), so we had the day off to rest and relax, and just be together. We were still in a “love-high” from the night before, and we were reminiscing about the memories we’ve shared together.
That’s the cool thing about marriage. You are able to create a life with someone and spend all your moments with that person. Edwin and I have shared a lot of things, both exciting and difficult. We went from living a long-distance relationship to being married and spending every second of every day together (literally!!).
It’s been an adventure, and here are a couple of things I’ve learned in these two short years:
The little things don’t really matter
When you first start living with someone, you begin to notice that they don’t exactly live the same way you do. In the beginning, there were a lot of things that really bugged me (and him). The fact that there were three different towels in the kitchen; one for drying the hands, one for drying the dishes and one for the counter. I was used to only one towel for everything. Walking around the house with slippers was something new for me, and when I walked with no shoes on, Edwin would flip out.
The way that he makes the bed, or how I fold the clothes. Little things like that don’t define who we are, just make us different from each other. And they don’t matter. We live, learn and grow and I’m happy to do this life with the one I love.
Also, these little things have helped me to improve my own way of living. He has opened up my mind to so many things that I don’t think I would have even noticed. We’ve both changed for the better, and we’re still growing as a couple.
Time is valuable, and it goes by fast!
Time together, time apart. It’s all valuable. Edwin and I work together at a school, and we both give classes at the university nearby our house. That’s why we are literally together 24/7. But even though I’m able to just walk out of my classroom to search for Edwin during the school day, doesn’t mean that we are spending time together.
Quality time is so important in any relationship—especially a marriage. There are so many things that happen throughout a person’s day, and when people start going through the motions, things become boring and redundant. We’ve learned that we need to make the time for each other to grow and nourish our marriage. We have to make that extra effort to keep the fire going.
Arguments are necessary
If anybody thinks that our relationship is perfect, you are foolish. Of course in social media nobody likes to post moments of ache or personal problems, that could ruin anyone’s day. And here, I don’t want that!! We are accustomed to post our life “highlights”, our moments of joy and pride. I just posted my surprise anniversary dinner that my husband set up for me. So, of course, everyone sees all the happy moments in our lives. But we are normal people—we fight.
These ridged moments only make our relationship stronger. The other day I got mad at Edwin for not communicating with me about something, we fought, I listened to him, he heard my thoughts and reasons. Now we have gained that knowledge of those things, and now we are able to work on improvement. It isn’t easy, but it’s definitely necessary.
Looking back on these first two years only makes me more excited for what the future holds for us. We still have a lot to learn and plenty more to grow. For now, we will take it one step at a time and enjoy every single moment we have in this life.
Tell me: What’s something you’ve learned in your relationship/marriage?
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